Do you find it hard to live in the moment? I did. My restless mind wouldn´t allow me to fully enjoy being here and now and, as a result, I felt stress and anxiety.
Luckily, a couple of years ago I learned about mindfulness. This Buddhist millennial technique consists of living in the moment, so I would like to share with you today my 6 tips to live in the moment:
1. Slow down
Our default mode is rush, but have you ever thought about the wonderful things you have been missing in your life because you don´t slow down? When you wake up and go to work stop for a moment and pay attention to the early morning light, to the sound of the wind, to the color of the sky…They are also part of your life, so do your best to enjoy!
2. Focus on one task at a time
Ok, this one is hard because most women I know, myself included, are multitaskers. I understand that everyday demands leave you with not many options, but this lack of focus is not only counterproductive, but also potentially exhausting. Maybe you think that you could (and should) manage everything, but you don´t have to be a superwoman. You are human, a beautiful human being, and it is ok to ask for help.
It is such a simple tip! When you want to focus on the present moment just breathe deeply in and out through your nose. Try to do this for at least five times.
4. Enjoy your meals
As I wrote in a previous post, it is not only important what we eat but also how we eat. If you have a meal while watching tv you are not really savoring it. You are just making yourself full (well, sometimes not even this). If you want to eat mindfully start paying attention to how your meal is presented on the plate. Smell it and take a forkful. Notice the different textures and eat slowly so you can enjoy every bite.
When you meditate you turn off the distractions and tune into yourself. This does not mean that you will not have any thought passing through your mind. You just need to accept it and let it go. You can learn more about this in my book.
6. Practice active listening
Active listening is about being present when someone else is talking to you, paying attention to his/her words as well as body language. I know this is not always easy, but whenever you are thinking about what to say next or the tasks you have to do when a friend is talking to you, then you are missing out important information and this is not living in the moment.
I still have uninvited thoughts, of course, but now I know how to deal with them without stressing out. So, are you ready to start living in the moment?